Resisting the idea of a wedding, I have several considerations. Firstly, I have always been averse to being the center of attention since I was young. Secondly, organizing for relatives and friends is not my forte. I do have a sense of vanity and hope for some recognition for my achievements, but being praised as the center of attention in any situation, or suddenly becoming the focus of attention, makes me extremely uncomfortable. This has been the case since childhood. Unlike some friends who fear or dislike interactions between blood relatives, the act of getting married and inviting various relatives and friends with whom I don't have much daily interaction is indeed a significant psychological burden.
However, there are some things that cannot be avoided, and a wedding is one of them. During this period, my partner and I had plans and struggles. Initially, I had to convince my mother, and perhaps out of respect for our thoughts, she didn't insist too much at first, giving us an optimistic illusion. It wasn't until a few months before the wedding, when both sets of parents sat down to discuss the wedding seriously, that we realized the difficulty of not having a wedding or having a very simple ceremony.
Through this process, my partner and I gradually understood the accurate positioning of the groom and bride in the matter of the wedding, something that is not easy to comprehend from TV dramas or other people's experiences. One of us is an only child, and the other is the eldest in the family. Our parents have spent half their lives in the county town and need this ceremony as a milestone. Our friends were a minority at the wedding, with more relatives and parents' friends present, so we were the premise of this ceremony but not the absolute protagonists.
Preparing for the wedding is an extremely complex project, intertwined with the integration of weddings in the region in everyone's consciousness, gradually forming an incredibly intricate process. All the sub-processes eventually became "publicly recognized" as indispensable. This decision itself is not something that two people or a small family can handle. The whole process scattered brothers and sisters from various places, bustling like the Chinese New Year, but this time it was for me, and it felt warm. Therefore, in this atmosphere, it became even clearer that marriage is not just about two people; it marks the beginning of communication between two large families.
With the support of a large family, we actually felt somewhat relaxed before the wedding. Apart from trying on clothes and introducing our families to each other, there wasn't much else to keep us busy from start to finish. It felt like a rare vacation at home, even more carefree than Chinese New Year. Interestingly, in the two days before the wedding, which were probably the two days with the least communication between us since we met, there were still many things that needed to be discussed. This led to a sense of loneliness on the night before the wedding.
On the day of the wedding, as my teacher advised, there were many details that could be cared about or ignored. Of course, I chose not to care, as long as the wedding proceeded smoothly. In the end, the only evaluation that mattered was that it was a successful event. Although there were indeed many small incidents during the process, they only added to the conversation.